Insight From Another Dominatrix

I came across a Twitter post from Mistress Alexandra, a London dominatrix. I do not know this woman but her Twitter post was interesting and I felt obliged to share it with those who read my blog. Here is what she said.

@MistAlexandra: A good dominatrix is an experienced woman who understands people & their diversity. She lives on this planet and has nothing to prove.

I believe this is a very insightful look at what a dominatrix truly is. So often we have this image of a woman who mercilessly beats or flogs or whips or punishes a submissive. Not someone who takes into account the submissive’s desires, needs, and wants. While we may wish to project an image that this is all about us, the Domme, it really isn’t. This is about understanding the mind, body, and soul of a submissive. It’s a true exchange of power but more than that it’s an exchange of trust. While we may present the persona of a strict and ambivalent woman only interested in our own needs, A true Domme will understand that the creation of this persona is merely to enhance and facilitate the scenario which meets the needs and desires of the submissive.

I love her insight and I love the way she expresses this. We are confident in our own ability and not doing this to put down more harm a submissive. It’s about understanding what goes on in that mind. Maybe it’s something that was derived from a childhood experience. Maybe it’s something that has built over time. But ultimately, that woman who understands herself, believes in the diversity of others, and has a true gift for delving into the soul of a submissive is the one that you will end up going back to over and over.

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